Tuesday, January 25, 2011

WHY DIDN'T YOU THINK LIKE A MAN

Honey chiles, this book: "Why do I Have To Think Like a Man" has stirred up some recent drama!  If you don't know what I'm talking about, please mark an X on the rock you've been under.  According to the former Mary Harvey, this book helped her deal with the hurt Steve Harvey brought to her life. Steve Harvey's ex-wife, Mary, has posted a series of Youtube videos that speak on the lies, the misleading of counsel during her divorce, as well as the indiscretions of her ex-husband, Steve.  She goes into great detail, in addition to showing actual emails and postal mail to prove the validity of her allegations.  Check out the video below:
To view more videos, click the above video to go to Youtube. SIDE NOTE:  Why does this story sound like "Diary of A Mad Black Woman?"

The sensitive side of me empathize with Mary.  Why?  Because I know what it feels like to be extremely hurt by a man.  I truly can't completely fault her for airing out her feelings and the circumstances surrounding the whole ordeal; especially if the other party is painting me in a negative light.  Putting aside the fact that Steve Harvey makes us laugh and is a successful radio personality-how would you feel if a man jilted a woman in this way?  I'm interested to know if Steve ever sincerely apologized for what happened(if the allegations are true).  Granted, Mary doesn't sport a pristine halo, but she definitely didn't deserve to be treated as second best.

Now let me say this about Mary Harvey(former).  HOW IN GOD'S CREATION DO YOU FALL FOR THE PRE-SCHOOL OKEY DOKE OF BEING REPRESENTED BY THE SAME COUNSEL AS YOUR SOON TO BE EX-HUSBAND?  You're not the one bringing in the cash flow, so did you honestly think he would do his best to be unbiased and represent you to the best of his ability? (Ok, so I know I'm posing this question as if I'm speaking to her...so bare with me)  I mean for someone who was handling his business affairs, I would think that a woman who was business savvy would be more wise to know better and choose, rather, to obtain independent legal representation.  To put it straight, if Steve indeed did what you claimed, he played you!!! And you allowed it!  I'm willing to bet should he and his current wife divorce, I'm convinced that she's going to play her cards right!

On another note, Steve responded to the allegations made my Mary.  Here's what he said:

 "I know the truth," declared Harvey to his listening audience. "But the matter is, the part that's hurtful in this is my wife and children had to be drugged [sic] into this. If you're going to be vindictive go ahead and aim it at me, but my son is coming in the room crying. And that's also her son. So why would you do this? Elle's POV: I didn't hear Mary drag the kids into this.  She may have alluded to his lack of parenting(not in the series of videos) but what I heard didn't suggest this.  I'll have to go back and re-watch.  As far as dragging his wife in...why not, you're the one who "drugged" her in.

"And I don't even understand the purpose of it," he continued. "I mean, I got you mad 12 years ago, that's what we're doing now? And here's the thing that my father always taught me. He said, 'Son there's three sides to every story. It's their side, it's your side, and it's the truth.' And the truth 'gon come out. Because see, once you go public then you allow people to start asking some other types of questions.(bvnewswire)  Read the complete article here.

So what do you all think?  Let's talk about it!  This thing is about to get really dirty!  I will say that this woman is obviously still hurt about this thing.  I'm sure she knows she was railroaded with the divorce settlement, considering the fact this man cheated during the marriage; and she is partially responsible for his success.   And to give this woman who was there through the thick and thin, before he blew up, nothing but a $1000 per month child support check---then allegedly  take the son away from his mother, and get full custody of him is a slap in the face-TWICE!  Please know, that I still enjoy SH's comedy and the Steve Harvey Project(I don't do the SHMS because I listen to Rickey Smiley in the morning child).  My intentions are not to bash him but rather to give my viewpoint of the situation!  And let me say this, if his money stretched longer than what it was when he was with me and he's enjoying the fruit with another woman who came along when his success was peaking, I'll air dirty laundry too(that is if I was still bitter and hadn't move forward with my life) I'm just saying.

2 comments:

  1. now ms elle you said that. the situation in its entirety seems strange. one has to ask themselves why his ex waited so long to come foward with this and then to we dont know what she tried to rectify prior to getting to this point. its sad that anytime wants to be justified by a mans wrong-doings their being referred to as bitter! iff this is true and from what ive seen and read its not lookn good for steve as far as his reputation goes. i like steve but me liking his talent has nothing to do with if he did indeed do this to his wife! they were married 16 years and if anybody can say they can move forward like your not effected after your partner of 16yrs has royally screwed you then kudos to them. theres nothing easy abt a breakup especially if u have been done wrong in the dissolution of the relationship. im watchn and waitn to see how this plays out

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  2. @IOIKT: We're all watching. I heard the other day that Steve's current wife is suing Mary. Chile, it's about to go down! Steve always say he wasn't perfect-and I believe him. I honestly believe with everything in me that there's a little truth with both of their sides. HOWEVER, if Mary was out to defame or do damage control, why didn't she record these videos when the first book came out...or better yet, before this next book came out? This is so interesting but I fear Mary won't be able to fight as hard because she doesn't have the financial backing as Steve.

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