Tuesday, January 25, 2011

WHY DIDN'T YOU THINK LIKE A MAN

Honey chiles, this book: "Why do I Have To Think Like a Man" has stirred up some recent drama!  If you don't know what I'm talking about, please mark an X on the rock you've been under.  According to the former Mary Harvey, this book helped her deal with the hurt Steve Harvey brought to her life. Steve Harvey's ex-wife, Mary, has posted a series of Youtube videos that speak on the lies, the misleading of counsel during her divorce, as well as the indiscretions of her ex-husband, Steve.  She goes into great detail, in addition to showing actual emails and postal mail to prove the validity of her allegations.  Check out the video below:
To view more videos, click the above video to go to Youtube. SIDE NOTE:  Why does this story sound like "Diary of A Mad Black Woman?"

The sensitive side of me empathize with Mary.  Why?  Because I know what it feels like to be extremely hurt by a man.  I truly can't completely fault her for airing out her feelings and the circumstances surrounding the whole ordeal; especially if the other party is painting me in a negative light.  Putting aside the fact that Steve Harvey makes us laugh and is a successful radio personality-how would you feel if a man jilted a woman in this way?  I'm interested to know if Steve ever sincerely apologized for what happened(if the allegations are true).  Granted, Mary doesn't sport a pristine halo, but she definitely didn't deserve to be treated as second best.

Now let me say this about Mary Harvey(former).  HOW IN GOD'S CREATION DO YOU FALL FOR THE PRE-SCHOOL OKEY DOKE OF BEING REPRESENTED BY THE SAME COUNSEL AS YOUR SOON TO BE EX-HUSBAND?  You're not the one bringing in the cash flow, so did you honestly think he would do his best to be unbiased and represent you to the best of his ability? (Ok, so I know I'm posing this question as if I'm speaking to her...so bare with me)  I mean for someone who was handling his business affairs, I would think that a woman who was business savvy would be more wise to know better and choose, rather, to obtain independent legal representation.  To put it straight, if Steve indeed did what you claimed, he played you!!! And you allowed it!  I'm willing to bet should he and his current wife divorce, I'm convinced that she's going to play her cards right!

On another note, Steve responded to the allegations made my Mary.  Here's what he said:

 "I know the truth," declared Harvey to his listening audience. "But the matter is, the part that's hurtful in this is my wife and children had to be drugged [sic] into this. If you're going to be vindictive go ahead and aim it at me, but my son is coming in the room crying. And that's also her son. So why would you do this? Elle's POV: I didn't hear Mary drag the kids into this.  She may have alluded to his lack of parenting(not in the series of videos) but what I heard didn't suggest this.  I'll have to go back and re-watch.  As far as dragging his wife in...why not, you're the one who "drugged" her in.

"And I don't even understand the purpose of it," he continued. "I mean, I got you mad 12 years ago, that's what we're doing now? And here's the thing that my father always taught me. He said, 'Son there's three sides to every story. It's their side, it's your side, and it's the truth.' And the truth 'gon come out. Because see, once you go public then you allow people to start asking some other types of questions.(bvnewswire)  Read the complete article here.

So what do you all think?  Let's talk about it!  This thing is about to get really dirty!  I will say that this woman is obviously still hurt about this thing.  I'm sure she knows she was railroaded with the divorce settlement, considering the fact this man cheated during the marriage; and she is partially responsible for his success.   And to give this woman who was there through the thick and thin, before he blew up, nothing but a $1000 per month child support check---then allegedly  take the son away from his mother, and get full custody of him is a slap in the face-TWICE!  Please know, that I still enjoy SH's comedy and the Steve Harvey Project(I don't do the SHMS because I listen to Rickey Smiley in the morning child).  My intentions are not to bash him but rather to give my viewpoint of the situation!  And let me say this, if his money stretched longer than what it was when he was with me and he's enjoying the fruit with another woman who came along when his success was peaking, I'll air dirty laundry too(that is if I was still bitter and hadn't move forward with my life) I'm just saying.

Friday, January 14, 2011

LET'S GET FRUGAL-ICAL FRUGAL-ICAL

Get it---Frugical, like physical....(lame, I know)! Yes, I just made up a word!  Webster, add it and credit me!  Thank ya!

Anywho, I'm too excited about this frugal thing.  I'll let you all in on a little secret of mine...come closer...closer...a little more.  Ok, this year my motto is: Frugal in 2011!  That's right, you read correctly, I plan on being frugal.  Those that know me very well would think that this would be simple for me considering my father is beyond frugal(he's just down right stingy) with his money.  On the contrary, it's really sort of hard.  I love to shop and it doesn't matter how much it costs, if I like it, I'm buying.  Simple as that!

But this is about to change.  I think I'm beginning to become more aware of certain things in my life; and my money just so happen to be at the top of the list.  After doing a little research, I noticed that I spend far too much on unnecessary mess!  For instance, grabbing food on the go for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and a snack in between, is ridiculous.  Let's add that up:

Breakfast: $3.00
Lunch: $10.00
Dinner: $15
Total:  $28.00 x 5= $140
do that at least 5 times per week and you'll end up spending close to $560/month or more!!!!!!

Now, my grand total was around $200.00 because I didn't eat out everyday, or I may have just ate 1 meal out for a particular day.  Anywho, that's money that could have gone towards a bill, right?  Senseless spending like this is what led me to focusing on becoming more frugal and spending conscience.  In an effort to be more frugal, I've begun to seriously look for deals and utilize coupons and other discounts whenever possible.

With that said, I want to introduce to you my "shopping secrets" I've found.  Remember "shopping secrets" because I will post blogs that will tell you where to go to find great deals.  I will also "teach" you how to use coupons to maximize savings. Please be advised that I'm learning how to use coupons like the coupon gurus so bare with me.

Walgreens(This is rather late, but you may still have time to act on this before Sunday.)
Get FREE Reach toothbrushes

Toothbrushes are 2.99 and up
Use the $2 off coupon in the Walgreen's circular(week ending 1/15)
Use a $2 coupon (www.coupons.com)

 Get a Lysol Handsfree Sanitizer Kit for 1.99

Lysol kits are 11.99
Red Plum(or you can try coupons.com) had a $3 off coupon
Walgreen's will give you $7 Register Rewards back(to be used during next purchase)

11.99-7(register rewards)= 4.99-3.00(coupon)=1.99(BOOM!)

There are more saving deals at Walgreen's this week to be had: Airwick oil refills, Windex, Glade fabric spray, Lysol, and much more.  Please ask me any questions you may have and I'll be sure to help you out!  Well, to the best of my ability because I'm still learning too!

Other stores to check out:

Old Navy - 40% clearance
www/oldnavy.com

Torrid
torrid.com

Kmart-Martin Luther King Sale(up to 75% clearance)
 kmart.com

Aeropostale-up to 70% off sale; Be sure to get $10 off $40 purchase coupon for this weekend
http://www.aeropostale.com

Wet Seal-Buy one, Get one for a penny clearance
wetseal.com


Happy weekend shopping!  Let me know what you get!  And don't forget about BBW!  bathandbodyworks.com

~Toodles,
Elle

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